change can be good... very, very good

Hello to my dearest six blog followers…

I am sure you have been wondering where I have been since I haven’t written since July. Well let me tell you ... A LOT has happened since then.

First off, after being blissfully happy together, nearly round the clock, for almost 10 months, Evan moved in with me in my house in Truckee.

For about a week.

And then he moved out.

Before you panic, it was for a very good reason! He landed a great job in the financial industry, which has long been an interest of his, and so he moved to San Francisco. We had been talking about the possibility of this happening for a few months, as he was doing some very preliminary networking, but things always happen faster (or slower) than you think, so he was off.

Now you know I love love love SF. And so I was thrilled to have a really good excuse to go more often, and luckily my work as realtor in Tahoe affords me a lot of flex time so I was able to visit Evan often as he got settled in his new city by the bay.

But ...

isn’t there always a but ... ?

I am not a fan of long distance relationships, and even though Truckee to SF is only a three hour drive, I quickly determined that I am too old to be an Interstate 80 road warrior, and truthfully, I really missed not being able to see my guy every night after work, and every morning before. We have so much fun together, and life is way too short to be apart so often.

So, I listed my Truckee home for rent on Craigslist and decided if the universe would send me another tenant or two, I would move to SF with Evan full time, and find a way to “visit” Tahoe, by mooching of various friends who live there, for accommodations when I had to head to the hills for work.

And did it ever. I spent a ton of time in September interviewing potential house mates for Josh, and ended up finding him not one but two terrific women to join him on Aspenwood Road.

I then had a very important conversation with my dear friend, and fellow Realtor Abby, and we arranged a great referral program so that if I did have business to attend to in Tahoe, at a time when it didn’t make sense for me to drop what I might be doing in SF, and drive up the hill, she would have my back.

Once those two problems were solved, I call the movers, and we were off!


So since my last post in July here is what changes have occurred in my life. (And can I just say, for a girl who doesn’t like change, it has been rough, but I think I have finally almost settled in for real, and am super excited for all that life wants to throw at me in 2011)

• In August my boss of five years, who I love like family, left Tahoe for Utah.

• With changes in many facets of TMR in 2010, I was informed that I would have a new office in the Northstar Village in August … and then it happened again in December.

• Evan moved in with me in Tahoe.

• Evan gets job in SF and moves to a temp apartment in North Beach.

• Evan moved to temp apartment #2 in the Mission.

• New house mate #1 moves in to Aspenwood. I move to the guest bedroom.

• New house mate #2 moves in to Aspenwood. I move in to the loft.

• Evan moves in to a “permanent” apartment with me and the pups in Pacific Heights.

• “Permanent” apartment in SF has disgusting plumbing problems and we are forced to move again, very abruptly.

• Evan & I move in to for real permanent apartment in Noe Valley … which we and the puppers absolutely love!



So I have to take a moment to pat myself on the back. I am the girl who will still likely be talking on a Palm Treo phone and driving my Honda Civic that I bought in the 90s, if it weren’t for the hazing of friends and family. Yes, I resist change. Maybe not as much as my dear friend Cari, who still lives in the same apartment that she has been in since 1992, drives the same Jeep she has driven since 1994, and wears the same jeans (hate her!) and cowboy boots she has worn since 1987 ... but I totally get it!

The really funny thing is the place we ended up in is literally one block from the last home I had in SF. So I still have the same coffee shop crew at Que Tal, the same little ladies at the Church Street nail salon, and the same fun neighborhoods guys are running the Jump Start corner store. Alot has changed in the area, my life, and the world, but there is such comfort in these simple familiarities.

I think it was on Oprah a couple years ago these psychiatrists were talking about the most difficult changes we face in our life, and I feel blessed that many of them are way beyond anything I have experienced, many of my recent life experiences were in the top ten most stressful life events: Divorce, Major Health Problem, Loss of Job, Change in residence, Foreclosure of Property. I am not throwing a pity party, which I am known to do on rare occasion. Quite the opposite. I am embracing the new stronger, less change adverse Tari Wilde. I faced all those changes, and came out in a place so beyond my wildest dreams.

Maybe change isn’t so bad after all.

But I really don’t want to move again for a really long time!